Thursday, December 31, 2015

Great Spanish Fashion Brands That Aren't Zara

Zara's parent company, Inditex, is once again gaining as many column inches as prime spots in our wardrobes, flying high in the retail world and reporting a staggering third-quarter profit that clocks in just shy of $954m. It's impossible—and quite upsetting—to think of a time when Zara and its fashion family didn't play such an important role in our day-to-day getting ready ritual. Their business model is untouchable and unreachable for many competitors (honestly, it's insanely speedy and reactive to what you are buying right now), but it has made us think about what else is going on in its motherland Spain. 

There are, of course, the Big Z's siblings: Uterque (older, more luxurious and directional), Stradivarius (young, fun), Bershka (even younger, even more fun), Massimo Dutti (great for the working woman) and Pull and Bear (casual, basic). However, the country has more to offer–from the super-luxe runway labels (take Loewe or Delpozo) to awesome, alternative high-street stores like Bimba and Lola. Not forgetting the trail-blazing bloggers who we look to like Sara Escudero of Collage Vintage or Gala Gonzalez of Amlul.

Scroll down to check out our top shopping picks from the best Spanish labels right now…

Modern Love: Single, and Surrounded by a Wall of Men

Sometimes I play a kind of shivery game in which I think about how different my life would be if I had made other choices. One thing leads to an unforeseeable other.

After spending my 20s as a would-be musician, I attended law school in New York City. I graduated owing about $100,000 in student loans. Luckily, I found a job at a terrific but demanding law firm, where I was assigned to share an office with an associate named Daniel.

Daniel and I bonded as soldiers who share a trench during wartime do. We were both shy, but working together on days, nights and weekends has a way of breaking down reserve. He would send me fake emails from terrifying law partners, and I'd jump out of empty offices and startle him.

We had no romantic connection, but we talked each other through our relationship messes. We agreed that socializing in unstructured settings was particularly frightening. Thus, we hid in our office and avoided the firm's weekly cocktail hour. The prospect of schmoozing with unfamiliar co-workers put us both in a defensive crouch.

But even the best of wartime alliances eventually weaken. After three years, Daniel left the firm and moved to another city. It took me another two years to pay off my loans. About five seconds later I fled the battlefield and joined the legal department of a slower-paced publishing company.

With more free time, I gathered my courage and signed up for a singles event run by a group that held regular mixers. I was 37, at my life's midpoint, and it looked like a dull, downward slide from where I stood. So I squashed my misgivings and showed up at the next mixer.

It had nine attendees — five men and three other women besides me. We each spoke about ourselves into a microphone. Then came the part I always hated: the mingling. The event's organizer gave the usual admonishments. None of us were to be rude. If someone approached us, we should talk to them for at least a minute.

Chairs scraped and we rose. I spotted an attractive guy and approached him. He beamed, came toward me and then swerved to speak with the woman he really had in mind. I saw a second guy and scooted over.

"Hi there!" I said.

"Sorry," he replied, and kept walking.

I left, vowing never to attend a singles mixer again. I emailed Daniel, who wrote back that the same group was sponsoring another mixer in a month, and I should go. Ha ha, I thought. I began to research single-parent adoption and signed a contract for a small co-op apartment.

One Friday afternoon some weeks later, I was sitting at my desk at my blessedly quiet job. Here no one urgently needed a memo summarizing legal research. No one expected me to work that night. This was peacetime lawyering.

I decided to clean out my email inbox. And there it was: Daniel's email about the singles mixer. The event would start at 6 that very evening in Midtown Manhattan.

I was dressed in a flannel shirt, jeans and sneakers. But what did it matter? I wouldn't meet anyone. And who needed love anyway? Then again, maybe it would be fun. But wouldn't I have to talk to people? I can leave at any time, I reminded myself.

This mixer had about 80 attendees, who sat on chairs in the meeting room of a high school. It took an hour to pass around the microphone. I scribbled notes of what certain men said about themselves: This one was a contractor who liked Shakespeare, that one was a lawyer who liked opera.

Then came the dreaded mingling. An angry-looking man stomped over and demanded to know how I was doing. Moments later, another man, this one with a fixed grin, asked what kind of movies I liked.

The mingling was to last for 30 minutes, but I couldn't pretend to be perky and relaxed for that long. If I didn't leave soon, I'd start telling inappropriate personal stories, such as the one about the nun in elementary school who told me I'd never amount to anything because I spoke so softly. After I chatted with a few more men, none of whom interested me, I hurried out to the bathroom and locked myself in a stall.

Why was I putting myself through this again? It was exhausting. Maybe love was overrated. Maybe love was just what people claimed to feel for anyone who'd put up with them. I leaned against the wall and closed my eyes. I could hear the chatter of women, turning on faucets, flushing toilets. I'll just wait here, I thought, until the mingling is over. Then I'll go back and see if anyone has written down my ID number as someone they'd like to date.

I returned to the meeting room, only to discover that the mingling session wasn't quite done. Immediately the lawyer who liked opera positioned himself in front of me. He was immaculately dressed in a suit, his dark hair clipped short, his brown eyes penetrating. Meanwhile, I could have played the part of the stablehand who gr oomed his horse.

"Hi!" I said. "I remember you. You're a lawyer."

"Yes," he said, and his face remained a closed door.

"I'm a lawyer, too. I used to be a litigator. Now I'm in-house at a publishing company. What kind of law do you practice?"

"Real estate," he said flatly.

"Ah. And you like opera. What period do you most like, or what composer?"

His expression eased just a bit. "I like Puccini."

A dim memory came to me of sitting in a music library a decade earlier, listening to an opera that I thought was terrible. "I remember listening to 'Tosca' once, years ago," I said. "It was so overblown."

A rather long pause ensued. Somewhere behind the lawyer, organizers urged people to take their seats.

"'Tosca' is my favorite opera," the lawyer said.

It was all so deliciously awful: the mingling, how I was dress ed, the futility of trying to meet anyone. Even when I tried to show interest in a person, I unwittingly flung an insult instead.

I couldn't help it: I laughed. "I'm sorry," I said. "It was probably a scratchy recording. Or I was in a grumpy mood that afternoon."

"No doubt," the lawyer said.

All of us took our seats, dutifully wrote down the ID numbers of people we liked and handed in our scorecards. Then we waited for the computer to sort the results.

I matched with the lawyer, whose name was Richard. A week later, we enjoyed a nice dinner at an Italian restaurant. Richard wore another impeccable suit, and I wore a dress. I asked him, "If you hadn't talked with me during the mingling session, would you still have written down my ID number?"

"Oh, no," he said. "I would never date someone I hadn't at least spoken with first." He tilted his head, remembering. "It was hard to get to you that evening."

Yes, I thought, because I was hiding in the bathroom.

"You were surrounded by men," he continued.

You poor deluded one, I thought.

"I had to get through a wall of men," he said.

I decided to opt for honesty. "There was no wall of men."

"Yes," he insisted, "there was!"

"I was hiding in the bathroom," I said.

"There was a wall of men."

That's probably the beginning of love: when you see someone in a way that defies reality, but which makes perfect sense to you.

On our second date, we went to the Metropolitan Opera and saw "Tosca." We emerged with the throngs into a crisp autumn night. The side streets were almost empty, though, and the two of us strolled along, talking excitedly about how evil Scarpia was, and the terrible fate that befell Cavaradossi.

"It's nice of you to forgive me for insulting your favorite opera," I said.

Richard gave an amiable shrug. "At least you'd heard of it."

As we walked, we held hands and talked about musicals. Somehow we found ourselves back by the now-deserted fountain in front of the opera house. It was midnight.

"Sing something by Rodgers and Hart," I said.

Richard considered. "I'm wild again," he sang. "Beguiled again. A simpering, whimpering child again."

Two years later, we married. More than a decade after that, we're the parents of 10-year-old twin boys.

When I ask myself how I managed to get so lucky, I think: Because my life in music didn't work out. Because I went to an expensive law school even though I had no money. Because I needed a well-paying job. Because the law firm assigned me Daniel as an officemate. Because Daniel sent me that email reminder.

But most crucial, I think, is that I stopped hiding in the bathroom before it was too late.

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

The 15 Most Popular Items Purchased by WWW Readers in 2015

If there's one thing your Who What Wear editors know, it's shopping. We pride ourselves on curating the best shoppable products out there—whether it's showing you where to find Kendall Jenner's trench coat or highlighting a cool Zara-inspired trend.

And how do we know we're pretty good at our jobs? Because you, dear readers, love to shop from our site—and the data proves it. We tallied the numbers and found out which products were the most popular with Who What Wear readers this year. Find out the results below!

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On Clothing: Can the Turtleneck Ever Be Cool Again?

Photo Credit Photo illustration by Mauricio Alejo

It was knit from gray lamb's wool. It defined a gray area. On a stark set, amid the playback of a plaintive address to an ex, the hip-hop star Drake danced to the beat of his own drum machine in the video for ''Hotline Bling'' while bundled in a roomy sweater with a collar that rose to touch his resolute jaw. Designers have often praised the turtleneck for the way that it moves with the body, and that was its job here, to envelop and underline Drake's dancing — dancing that was objectively uncool, a choreography of private pleasure.

''Hotline Bling'' is a song about placing booty calls, and this turtleneck, with its forgiving dad-wear cut, seemed an invocation of an afghan that lovers might have snuggled under. Yet a fan wouldn't have wanted it to be any more body-hugging, which would have given Drake's jerks, knee bends and swivels the unfortunate effect of Mike Myers's turtlenecked character, Dieter, in the old ''Sprockets'' sketch. Instead, Drake was giving the public a performance of masculinity that it hadn't known it wanted.

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One evening in London in 1924, when the playwright Noël Coward was recently famous, he opened his newspaper to learn that he had originated a fashion for colorful high-necked sweaters. The turtleneck, which had long been humbly insulating longshoremen and sea dogs against the salty air, suddenly achieved symbolic value. In his memoir ''Present Indicative,'' Coward claims that he turned to turtlenecks ''more for comfort than for effect,'' blithely sliding past the fact that the simple show of privileging comfort invariably creates its own effect. He noticed ''more and more of our seedier West End chorus boys'' slithering into these sweaters over the months that followed, and he seemed pleased to have had a hand in investing the turtleneck with new social standing.

There was a current of exoticism to it and more than a whiff of moral laxity, sharing a certain flamboyant ease with a more famous, less versatile sartorial statement of Coward's — the dressing gown. Loitering around Oxford that November, Evelyn Waugh marveled at the popularity of the new high-necked sweater on the party scene, judging it ''most convenient for lechery because it dispenses with all unromantic gadgets like studs and ties.'' Further, the garment offered cosmetic benefits: ''It also hides the boils with which most of the young men seem to have encrusted their necks.'' That these two aspects of the turtleneck — easy access, convenient concealment — are mutually useful has forever since been appreciated by teenagers whose dates have been so rash as to raise hickeys.

If the foundational premise of the turtleneck as a style is opposition, its patron saint is Juliette Gréco, the French singer who was a muse and mascot of Left Bank intellectuals in the 1950s. When the face of this existentialist it girl, eyes contoured in kohl, was photographed popping from a black turtleneck sweater, she supplied the enduring template for Bohemian black. The idea that a few inches of fabric might not only indicate a lifestyle but also incarnate an approach to the universe was an absurdity too delicious to resist, so no one did, and the austere, informal and yet ceremonious black turtleneck entered the iconography of nonconformism.

Its simplicity ensured its success as an international export, a marker of the willfully artis tic and the media clichés thereof. This was the model for the gamine glamour of Audrey Hepburn in ''Funny Face'' and the ascetic elegance of a modern dancer in her all-business leotard. This was, with bongo drums and beret, both the fact and the parody of the basic Beatniks. The rakishness of Coward's turtleneck combined with the intellectual credentials of Gréco's to make this the go-to costume announcing disciplined resistance. Britain's ''angry young men'' (with their corduroy pants and full-body brooding) and the Black Panthers (with their slick leather jackets and steely affect) were each armored to the chin, the high collar throwing forceful faces into high relief.

This revolution was televised to impressive ratings. The gesture of refusal went pop. The trimly militant turtleneck made an apt sheath for a sleuth like Steve McQueen in ''Bul litt'' (1968) or Richard Roundtree in ''Shaft'' (1971). Each hero had a silhouette that seemed, like his name, built for speed. For two or three years, the average American male tried to treat the turtleneck as a substitute for the shirt and tie, extending its social politics into the dining room, much to the consternation of the headwaiter. Johnny Carson could carry this off, but the average guy risked seeming like a square straining to get his mouth around the vogue words of hepcat slang.

The very persistence of the shirt and tie points to the ticklish problem of the neck as a charged and vulnerable space pleading for special attention from the male wardrobe. The widespread disruption of the traditional scheme seeme d an opportunistic decadence, a bit like the ethos of free love curdling into a key party. The 1969 playscript for Neil Simon's ''Plaza Suite'' describes a movie producer ''dressed in 'Hollywood Mod,' with a tan turtleneck sweater and tight blue suede pants.'' That way lay disco and its disgraces.

Women wore the rebellious turtleneck longer. Then as now, there was a certain sophistication in the overwhelming rejection of décolletage; this sweater said that her eyes were up here. There is no turtleneck specified on that famous Joan Didion packing list, but doesn't it seem that there should be? The aura of 1970s Didion, with her cigarettes and her migraines, is decidedly turtlenecked. But the photo record suggests it was more a Susan Sontag item, a jet-set cerebral u niform for forging ideas beneath a dramatic hairdo.

Six decades after Juliette Gréco, there came along a Frenchman named Grégoire Bouillier, who sounded the depths of the turtleneck's degradation in a memoir titled ''The Mystery Guest.'' Dumped by a girlfriend, Bouillier develops a strange case of what he terms ''sartorial neurosis'': ''I started wearing hideous turtlenecks as undershirts the moment she left.'' To him, these combined the features of an emotional bandage and a psychologic hair shirt, for he had always ''despised the men who wore them as the lowest kind of pseudosportsmen'' and supposed that women were correct to share his abhorrence.

Like many creatures first spotted in the wild, the turtleneck re-emerged in the 1980s in captivity, heralded as a staple — occasionally embellished with tiny whimsical prints — in ''The Preppy Handbook.'' Rehabilitated, it entered the terrain of later-stage Nora Ephron and her self-deprecating riffs on feeling bad about her neck, destined to camouflage wattles and represent complacency. The sensible, newly conservative turtleneck was figured as ideal gear for a wholesome weekend frolic with your golden retriever and your catalog-model spouse. Ballooning in shape, it lost its inherent tension — a dynamic most embarrassingly illustrated by a promotional photo for the 1990s sitcom ''Mad About You'' in which the co-stars, Paul Reiser and Helen Hunt, pull the necks of their matching sweaters over their mouths as if they've taken a fatal fall into the Gap. It is an image not so much androgynous as sexless and a vision of the turtleneck as a towel that has been thrown in.

The apotheosis of the deliberately boring normcore turtleneck was found on Steve Jobs, who arrived at his stark trademark look after striking up a friendship with the designer Issey Miyake, who gave him 100 or so of them. According to Walter Isaacson's biography, Jobs ''came to like the idea of having a uniform for himself, because of both its daily convenience … and its ability to convey a signature style.'' If the Bohemian turtleneck indicated, as Anne Hollander wrote in ''Seeing Through Clothes,'' ''the kind of freedom from sartorial convention demanded by deep thought,� �' Jobs's turtleneck was its techno-corporate mutation, firmly utilitarian and faintly utopian, giving the impression of being ahead of a time that had yet to arrive. It is no coincidence that the turtleneck turns up frequently in science fiction, seen in ''Lost in Space'' and ''Logan's Run'' and lending a close-fitted bit of Starfleet chic.

There is a touch of this retro-futurism — the promise of a world evolved beyond fussy buttons — in the turtleneck that the peacocks are now flocking toward. Every Sunday evening that an N.F.L. quarterback emerges from the locker room wearing a jacket with peaked lapels over a sweater that swaddles his throat, a skirmish erupts on the sideline of the spectacle. For every approving observer, another bystander will cringe at having witnessed a revival of the vibe of Joe Namath's bachelor pad.

The Drakean refusal to be hemmed down and tucked in constitutes a kind of counterrebellion. In contrast to the eager chic of the GQ QBs, it is scaled to suit a sweatshirt aesthetic, rendering this turtleneck perfectly contemporary. The sign of the times reads, ''No jacket required.'' The maître d' is wearing a hoodie. Pseudosportsmanship is widely recognized as an international pastime. The reclamation of the turtleneck sweater as low-key athletic gear — a simple, slouchy pleasure that pretends to be nothing else — feels right, even if it looks off. And in the end, looks matter only so much when something is worn to dance as if no one were watching.

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

#TuesdayShoesday: 5 Stylish Suede Flats

It's Tuesday, so you know what that means—it's time to talk shoes. Today's topic? Our favorite suede flats! To enable (and honor) our love for footwear, we've dedicated a weekly post to highlight and share our must-have picks! Be sure to come back every Tuesday to check out the week's featured style and shop the shoes sure to keep your wardrobe fresh and covetable.

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Preschool Without Walls

SEATTLE — Three-year-old Desi Sorrelgreen's favorite thing about his preschool is "running up hills." His classmate Stylen Carter, 5, likes to "be quiet and listen to birds — crows, owls and chickadees," as she put it. And for Joshua Doctorow, 4, the best part of preschool just may be the hat he loves to wear to class (black and fuzzy, with flaps that come down over his ears).

All three children are students at Fiddleheads Forest School here, where they spend four hours a day, rain or shine, in adjacent cedar grove "classrooms" nestled among the towering trees of the University of Washington Botanic Gardens.

The program, in its third year, is less than seven miles from Microsoft, which means some parents sit in front of computers all day inventing the digital future, while Fiddleheads children make letters out of sticks or cart rocks around in wheelbarrows.

Founded in 2012 by Kit Harrington, a cer tified preschool teacher, and Sarah Heller, a naturalist and science educator, Fiddleheads is part of a larger national trend that goes beyond Waldorf education, which has long emphasized outdoor play, even in inclement weather.

Photo Stylen Carter, 5, left, and Alma Essers, 3, use a tree stump as their table. Credit Meryl Schenker

There's the Chippewa Nature Center in Midland, Mich., founded in 2007, where children wear hats and mittens during daily outdoor sessions in the frigid winter months. At the All Friends Nature School in San Diego, which became a nature preschool in 2006, children often spend mornings making sand castles at the beach. And at the Drumlin Farm Community Preschool in Lincoln, Mass., founded in 2008, children learn to feed farm animals, grow vegetables and explore the farm's many acres of wildlife habitat.

Whether the schools are emerging in reaction to concerns that early education has become increasingly academic or simply because parents think traipsing around in the woods sounds like more fun than sitting at a desk, they are increasingly popular.

The Natural Start Alliance, founded in 2013 in response to demand from a growing number of nature preschool providers, now counts 92 schools that deliberately put nature at the heart of their programs, and where children spend a significant portion of each day outside, according to director Christy Merrick. That's up from 20 schools in 2008, when Patti Bailie, a professor at the University of Maine at Farmington, counted them as part of her doctoral research.

A typical day at Fiddleheads starts at 9 a.m., with Desi, Stylen, Joshua and fellow students zipping up waterproof suits so they can climb on, and sometimes slip off, sopping-wet logs; create secret forts under dripping boughs of bright green, and examine squirming earthworms in grubby hands.

Students go on "listening walks" with their teachers during which they stand in a circle with their eyes closed and name the things they can hear, like wind and rain, when they don't talk. The children also eat lunch, sing songs and occasionally squabble under the open sky and towering trees.

Desi's mother, Judy Lackey, 34, is pleased. "It's just a magical place," she said. "In indoor spaces, teachers have planned everything. Here, you never know what you're going to see."

While the children are carefully supervised by trained teachers, the school has a choose-your-own-adventure attitude toward learning. So when students first placed one of those closely examined earthworms in an empty toy watering can during a recent visit, it prompted a conversation with a volunteer teacher, Marnie O'Sullivan, about what kind of homes earthworms might most enjoy. (Hint: not a plastic watering can.)

"We kind of just think and find what we want to do in our head, and we just do it," Stylen said.

There are rules, and Stylen, one of the oldest in the class, is quick to explain them: "If we see a bug, we are careful not to step on it. If we see a pretty leaf, we pick it up and put it in our magic spot."

Walking alone onto the park road (despite its ban on car traffic) and pretending sticks are swords are also forbidden. But such rules and a few others leave room for plenty of adventures.

There's carting around rocks in wheelbarrows, playing at being (sword-less) pirates, examining trees split by lightning, digging in wood-chip piles to make child-size "nests," finding an unknown seed and dubbing it a "nothing berry," and running up and down hills. The most popular word at Fiddleheads is "notice," as in, "What do you notice about this fallen log?" and "I notice mushrooms."

"Some days we're setting up and we hear eagles calling to each other, and we run out and look up," Ms. Harrington said. "Kids are the best at sharing in joy and wonder."

Or as Adele Miroite, 3, said, her little hands wrist-deep in a wood-chip pile, "I love school."

Fiddleheads is one of at least 18 similar preschools founded in the greater Seattle area since 2005, according to a recent story in ParentMap, a local parenting magazine. And 18 apparently are not enough.

Photo Adele Miroite, 3, said, her little hands wrist-deep in a wood-chip pile, "I love school." Credit Meryl Schenker

There are 51 children on Fiddleheads' waiting list and 143 on a list for next year's spots, Ms. Harrington said. That's after the school more than doubled its enrollment to 50 students in two classrooms this year from about 20 in just one classroom last year. And students' parents, to judge from a small collection picking up their children on a recent afternoon, aren't off-the-grid types. They include lawyers, chief financial officers and television producers.

"I don't know if we're hitting a tipping point yet, but maybe," said Ms. Bailie, who got her start as a teacher at an outdoor preschool program at the Nature Center at Shaker Lakes in Cleveland. At the time, she knew of only about a half- dozen schools in the entire country trying something similar, she said. These days, she teaches a class specifically for would-be preschool teachers who aim to work outside.

Ms. Bailie thinks the pushback against standardized testing and growing concern about young children spending too much time on touch-screen devices has helped the market for outdoor schools. She also credits the best-selling 2005 book, "Last Child in the Woods," by Richard Louv, which helped popularize the idea that children should spend as much time as possible in the outdoors.

Mr. Louv argues passionately in his book that children should play and explore the outdoors in the same unstructured ways their parents and t heir grandparents did before them.

While reducing childhood obesity (8.4 percent of American 2- to 5-year-olds are obese) by increasing physical activity is a prime argument in support of outdoor play, Mr. Louv suggests that the need goes beyond exercise. Today's children have fundamentally lost touch with nature, he said.

"Nature deficit disorder describes the human cost of alienation from nature," he wrote. Among them: diminished use of the senses, attention difficulties and higher rates of physical and emotional illness, he writes.

Though they all try to address this "nature deficit disorder,� � not all of the new nature preschools are quite as natural as Fiddleheads, which belongs to a type of school usually described as a "forest kindergarten," characterized by having no indoor space other than an emergency weather shelter.

Many nature preschools, like Chippewa in Michigan, do have indoor facilities. Ms. Bailie and the Natural Start Alliance both count as nature preschools those in which students are outdoors for a significant portion of their day and in which the focus of the curriculum is the natural world.

Some preschool providers still think time indoors can be a valuable addition to an outdoor-focused day (and some children may prefer it). There's also the practical matter of getting licensed. Many states won't allow a school without a building to receive a license, and unlicensed schools can usually operate only for four hours a day. In fact, that's a requirement in Washington state and it's one of the reasons Fiddleheads is open only until 1 p.m.

Then there's just the practical requirements of spending all that time outdoors. Children need the right clothing, which can be expensive. And even for the die-hards, sometimes it's just not really safe to have children under 5 playing outdoors.

At Drumlin Farm Community Preschool, where it can get quite cold, the director Jill Canelli uses several overlapping sets of guidelines to determine when it is too cold, windy or icy to go outside.

If the temperature, with wind chill, is below 15 degrees Fahrenheit, for instance, the children have an indoor day. That guideline is based on an Iowa Department of Public Health publication, Ms. Canelli said. And if the local school district cancels because of snow, the preschool will usually close, too.

"Safety is first," she said, adding that parents have asked why their children weren't outside on a given day and she's had to explain Iowa's safe-temperature guidelines to them. "Children can't learn if they're not safe."

Safety notwithstanding, Deborah Stipek, an education p rofessor at Stanford University who studies early education, is not a booster of the outdoor preschool model. "I have a feeling that this is a flash-in-the-pan idea," she said.

Photo Left to right, Audette Laird, 3; Danton Young, 4; Kojiro, 5; Wallace Bobek, 4; Bay Wagner, 3; and Theodore Oberwetter, 3, pause to eat lunch in a shelter. Credit Meryl Schenker

Professor Stipek pointed out that excellent natural materials can be provided to children indoors and that setting times when they can freely choose between activities like blocks, art projects and dress-up allows for plenty of self-determined "adventures." And while she is a strong believer in the benefits children get by spending time outside, she is skeptical of the idea that spending the whole day outside is necessarily better.

"I don't see benefit of being outdoors doing the same activity as you'd be doing indoors," Professor Stipek said.

But for the administrators of Fiddleheads, the benefit of children doing the same thing outdoors that they could have done indoors is as clear as a babbling brook.

"When I taught indoors, every material had a learning goal," Ms. Harrington said of the various items she would put out for her students to play with when she was a Montessori preschool teacher. "Here, the entire classroom is a material. Certainly, the materials we set out are that way, but this classroom has so much more to offer."

< p class="story-body-text story-content" data-para-count="366" data-total-count="10654" itemprop="articleBody">Though there is plenty of evidence that playing outside lowers the risk of obesity, improves balance and agility, calms high-energy children, reduces stress, improves self-regulation, aids healing and soothes the soul, little research specifically on outdoor preschools has been conducted in the United States. (There is more in Scandinavia, where they are popular.)

Ms. Harrington and Ms. Heller hope to help change this by opening their school to researchers. The first study, set to start in January, will look at how much children in outdoor schools move compared to children at home or in traditional preschools. The lead researcher is Dr. Pooja Tandon, a pediatrician at the University of Washington Seattle Children's Research Institute.

Most nature preschools are private; tuition at Fiddelheads is $760 a month. But some programs, like the Chippewa Nature Center in Michigan, have begun to work with their school districts. Students in the nearby Bullock Creek School District can now attend "nature kindergarten" and even "nature first grade" at their regular public elementary school.

And a few city schools have even taken up the forest school mantra. Students at the Brooklyn New School in the Carroll Gardens neighborhood of Brooklyn now spend every Wednesday outside in nearby Prospect Park (as long as it's not raining).

Back in Seattle, Andrew Jay, a former Audu bon Center director and nonprofit entrepreneur, thinks it's far past time to take advantage of the low facility costs of outdoor-based programs and open them up to a broader range of families. He is planning to open nine outdoor schools based in Seattle City Parks in the next two years.

"A city park is the most democratic space" for a school, Mr. Jay said. "The nature part is amazing. But what hooked me was making it available to all."

Mr. Jay got the official go-ahead to operate his schools on city land from the parks department in October, and now he's trying to get approval from the city's education department to qualify for funding as a local public preschool program.

Back at Fiddleheads, several children huddled around Stylen, who was holding a treasure. With her blond hair trailing to the edge of her bright yellow rain jacket, she held out a "nothing berry" for all to see.

"I want to see the inside," 4-year-old Rowan Wessels said.

"O.K., but don't break it any more than that," Stylen said, pointing at a nick somebody had made with a rock.

Rowan peered closely at the soft white center of the mystery berry and exclaimed, "It looks like ice cream!"

This story was published in partnership with The Hechinger Report, a nonprofit, independent news organization focused on inequality and innovation in education.

Monday, December 28, 2015

A Warm (and Stylish) Look Under $50

Want to know how to keep your wardrobe stocked with the freshest items without making a huge dent in your bank account? It's easy—shop our wallet-friendly ensemble each week! To make sure you're set with the coolest (and most affordable!) buys, every Monday, we're putting together an entire look for under $50. So scroll down to snag this week's cold-weather look, and make sure to come back every Monday to discover more bargain looks!

Sunday, December 27, 2015

What to Buy from Zara's Incredible Sale

Zara's massive end-of-season sale is finally upon us, meaning that the majority of their already affordable stock is marked down to make room for the fresh spring styles to come. If you've attempted to navigate the sale unassisted only to find yourself faced with indecision and an overflowing cart, take a break and let us narrow the best of their offerings down for you, dear reader.

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Vows: Me or My Mother? A Romantic Message Goes Astray

Neither rain, nor snow nor a misaddressed Christmas card could keep Joe Russo IV from the woman he was certain would be his wife.

The first day his parents took him skiing as a 4-year-old, he was determined to master the sport: He fell, readjusted, went back up the mountain, fell, readjusted, went back up the mountain and kept going until he finally had it.

"He really doesn't give up," said his mother, Sue Russo. He did the same with golf until he was a 9 handicap at his peak. He did the same with academics. And he did the same with love.

Perseverance was a useful attribute in 2009, when he lost his job with a California investment firm in the financial downturn. The following summer, he sought refuge with his parents at their summer house at the Oyster Harbors Club in Osterville, on Cape Cod.

Job prospects failed to turn up, summer turned to fall, and one day, his mother mentioned that friends had invited them to a Boston College tailgate party, and that his father, Joseph Russo III, could not go.

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With a five-day growth of beard, tendrils escaping from a cap barely covering an overgrown mane, bluejeans and a well-worn North Face jacket, he hitched a ride to the party with friends. There he encountered white linens, crystal glassware and men in suit jackets. "I was immediately embarrassed," he said.

Hiding beneath the unkempt exterior was a man with an M.B.A. from the University of North Carolina — an economics graduate from Trinity College in Hartford who has "an unwavering, rock-solid integrity, is very smart and is a very hard worker," said a friend from graduate school, Scott Zimmerly.

Mr. Russo hovered outside t he crowd, but without a car of his own in which to hide, he was trapped.

At the tailgate party was Elise Morrissey, a dark-eyed, silken-haired Boston College graduate. Her parents, Bob and Alyce Morrissey, who knew the Russos from Oyster Harbors, were the hosts.

Beauty is Ms. Morrissey's business. She began her career with the interior designer Mariette Himes Gomez, and now owns her own firm, Morrissey Saypol Interiors, where she has managed to flourish in the competitive world of New York design. She also had spent her summers at Oyster Harbors. And she couldn't help noticing Mr. Russo.

"He was leaning up against the edge of a garage, trying t o be inconspicuous, but of course he stood out," Ms. Morrissey said. "I thought he looked cool." She walked over to him.

Mr. Russo was moved by Ms. Morrissey's kindness.

"I came away with the thought of 'Hey, we've been in the same small town in the summer for the past 15 years and I've never met you, never saw you in the clubhouse or the tennis courts or the bars everybody goes to,''' he said. "'Where have you been?'"

Her compassion that day was characteristic: She had saved hatchlings fallen from their nests in thunderstorms, invited her nieces and nephews on special occasions to a night just for each of them in New York and "lived everyday full of happiness," said her sister, Katie Morrissey.

She also understood early on what would sustain her through life: a career about which she was passionate, a walkable city and a location near enough to her family in Massachusetts to allow her to return whenever she wanted.

"She's different, she's artsy," her mother said. "The boyfriends she had were always from Paris and Rome and South Afr ica."

Her most potent love affair had been with New York. After living briefly in Paris and Florence, Italy, she moved to Manhattan. But New York had been hit by the recession, too, and Ms. Morrissey lost her job. After several months of figuring out her next steps, she opened her firm in 2010 with a former colleague, Elizabeth Brush Saypol. Business blossomed.

Back in California, Mr. Russo landed a job. A year passed, and as summer approached he thought about the annual Fourth of July party at Oyster Harbors, and he thought about Ms. Morrissey. He traveled to the Cape, but this time he went prepared, with a haircut, a tan, linen pants and a collared shirt. Ms. Morrissey did not recognize him.

"I'd never seen him without a hat on, or cleanshaven," she said. "His skin glowed."

That encounter was just a moment, but Mr. Russo was encouraged. "I could tell this was different," said his brother, Charles. "There was a recognition that it could be something special."

He returned to California, and as the holidays approached, he decided to send a card to Ms. Morrissey. After several torn-up attempts, witnessed by his brother, he wrote a message and mailed it to Ms. Morrissey's parents' house in Massachusetts. But he mistakenly used the spelling of the mother's name, Alyce (which is pronounced AH-lease, similar to her daughter's EH-lease).

During the holidays, the card made its way to her parents' cold-weather home in North Palm Beach, Fla. Ms. Morrissey's father, Bob Morrissey, was sitting at the kitchen counter, opening the cards. He got to Mr. Russo's card, pulled it out of the envelope and recalled reading: "Dear Alyce: Will you be in Osterville for Christmas? If so, I'd like to get together for a drink." Mr. Morrissey was taken aback.

"I only know one Joe Russo," he recalled thinking, referring to the elder Mr. Russo, a golf buddy from Oyster Harbors. "What's he doing wanting to see my wife?"

Then he turned the envelope over. Most of the holiday cards the couple received were addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Ro bert Morrissey." This one was addressed only to Alyce Morrissey. He took a deep breath.

"Honey?" he called to his wife. Then, "Will you tell me what is going on with you and Joe Russo?"

Mrs. Morrissey blanched and said, "What are you talking about?" She walked over to her wary husband, read the card twice and looked bewildered. After a few awkward moments, she recalled saying, "Oh, of course. This must be young Joe."

They shared a laugh.

"For a few moments there, it was a little dicey," Mr. Morris sey said.

The card was forwarded to their daughter in New York. It arrived in January, long after Mr. Russo had returned to California. Although she had no interest in a long-distance relationship and had tossed the card into the trash soon after receiving it, Ms. Morrissey, minding her manners, did email Mr. Russo to thank him. They began to email twice a month or so, sharing stories and photos of places they had been.

"I would say to him," she said, " 'If you are ever in New York, let me know,' and I would say silently to myself, 'otherwise, there's no need for us to correspond.'"

Mr. Russo tried to close the gap between them. He told Ms. Morrissey he would be at the Oyster Harbors Fourth of July party, and they made plans to see each other. They ate at local restaurants, went to bars, took walks. It was then that Mr. Russo knew.

"I said to myself, 'I think I'm going to love you,'" he said. "But I couldn't say it to her."

Although Ms. Morrissey was warming to Mr. Russo, she was exercising caution. One evening while they were dining out, an insect landed on Mr. Russo's sleeve. It began to crawl upward toward his face. Facing a dating conundrum, Ms. Morrissey asked herself: "What do I do? If I swipe it off myself, it's contact and that means I care about him. And if I don't do anything and it goes down his shirt, that's pretty awful."

Her decision fell to words: "You have a bug on your shoulder," she said. She was still on the fence about him.

But after a week of being together, Ms. Morrissey decided she liked him and wanted to be honest.

"I told him that if I didn't see him in New York by Oct. 1, I didn't want to have anything to do with him." She also refused to go to California to visit. "I wanted him to come to New York."

Mr. Russo, on a tightrope between coasts, became a regular at Kennedy Airport for several months. In 2014 he moved to New York and took a job in real estate investment management with Zurich Alternative Asset Management. Ms. Morrissey welcomed him with open arms. His perseverance had won out.

She liked that he was gentle and calm, but a romantic who held doors for her and always called when he said he would. "It was just really easy," she said, "and I knew that I could count o n him."

He liked that they both had so much in common: close families, a respect for tradition, a sense of humor. "She's a beautiful person," he said.

The couple dined at Tavern on the Green and Brasserie Cognac East on Lexington Avenue, walked the sidewalks of the city and traveled to Virgin Gorda in the Caribbean and Montreal, and finally to California, now that Mr. Russo was safely ensconced in New York.

Several months later, Mr. Russo went to Boston to ask Ms. Morrissey's father for his permission to marry his daughter.

On De c. 5, the Rev. Leo Shea, a Maryknoll missionary who was a Boston College classmate of the bride's father, officiated at a nuptial mass at the Church of St. Vincent Ferrer on Lexington Avenue. Antique acoustic tiles muffled the sirens and frequent honks of fire trucks outside the church's doors as Father Shea said, "This all began when Joe's heart got the courage to send the Christmas card."

Minutes later, the groom, 39, emerged from the church with his bride, 40, his smile competing with the glow of holiday lights on the street.

"We both waited a long time, and I'm sure our parents did, too," Mr. Russo said. "I'm just so happy with the way it happened."

Slowly and steadily.

"He knew what he was looking for, that's for sure," Sue Russo said. "He wasn't going to have anybody. He was willing to wait, just like he was willing to wait for everything he's ever done."

Read more: Gabrielle Karol and Benjamin Jacobs: After Years of Breakup Regret, He Wins Back the One

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Correction: December 27, 2015

A report in the Vows column last Sunday, about the marriage of Elise Morrissey and Joe Russo IV, incorrectly characterized the wedding site as a cathedral. It is a church.

Saturday, December 26, 2015

Celebrities' Most Instagram-Worthy Christmas Gifts

You know that someone is fond of a gift when they choose to share it with the world via Instagram. There were a number of celebs that likely went to sleep last night with visions of sugar plums dancing in their heads alongside their shiny new Christmas gifts. While some of these noteworthy gifts can be deemed as more extravagant and some more subtle, they're all clearly treasured by their recipients.

Scroll down to see who received a snowy white pony and who was gifted a gorgeous pair of Aquazzura x Poppy Delevingne shoes and more! 

Breaking Up? Let an App Do It for You

Photo Credit Monica Ramos

Checklist for the holidays: Buy bejeweled 2016 eyeglasses and noisemakers from street vendor. Stock Champagne. Regift perfume and sweaters. Turn Christmas tree into mulch. And, oh yes, break up with significant other.

The year-end is popular for ending things. (One analysis of changes to Facebook relationship statuses that mentioned "breakup" revealed a peak in the two weeks before Christmas.) But just in time for seasonal remorse is a flourishing breakup industrial complex, a confluence of technology and changing social mores.

Dissolving a relationship used to be a private matter between the two principals, with a Greek chorus of close friends and fa mily. Now the sopranos and tenors include apps, websites, social media tools and digital Cyranos for hire.

If you're not up to the dirty deed yourself, the Breakup Shop will do it for you. The site, whose slogan is "Let us help you end it," uses email, snail mail, text or Snapchat, at prices from $5 to $80, for customized naughty or nice options. (In the nice category is an hasta la vista gift pack that includes chocolate-chip cookies and "The Notebook" on Blu-ray. In the naughty is a "mean photo attachment" of you with your new loved one.)

It's always been possible to "unfriend" someone on Facebook, but the company's new "breakup flow" allows you t o limit your connection with an ex: untagging photos, burying past posts and editing any mention on your news feed.

"It's like unfriending lite," said Kelly Winters, a project manager on the company's compassion team. (Yes, Facebook has a compassion team, whose bailiwick entails "easing life's difficult moments," such as designating a "legacy contact" to handle your account when you're dead.)

Maintaining even limited social media ties may seem self-flagellating, a gateway to cyberstalking an ex's activities and new relationships (and if you digitally disconnect, at least you can imagine that he's been hit by a bus).

"We spoke to social scientists and experts to try and understand: Are we creating good?" Ms. Winters said. "One of the most powerful moments was talking to a man going through a divorce after 20 years. He said: 'I have to co-parent our children with her for the rest of our lives. I've invested more in this relationship than anything else in my life.' We want to be thoughtful about the fact that you might want to stay connected but don't want to be reminded. The breakup flow lets people stay in touch gently and casually, and it's on your terms."

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Facebook's expert advice came from the Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley. "We looked through the language and made recommendations, to be less confrontational or more empathic," said Emiliana R. Simon-Thomas, the center's science director. "There's a way of phrasing questions to be neutral, not incendiary. 'Do you never want to see John again?' might be how a person feels, but Facebook has an opportunity not to exaggerate or fuel greater animosity or pain."

For now, the breakup flow is available only in the United States, only on mobile devices and only for a random test group.

"It can take up to a year to introduce a new tool to all users," Ms. Winters said, "but this one will happen in far, far less time. The anecdotal response has been, 'Thank you, we needed this.'"

Actually, KillSwitch did it first. Enter your ex's name on the app, and it goes to work aggregating photos, videos, wall posts and status updates on Facebook, removing them all in one fell swoop, with an option to save deleted pictures in a hidden album.

"Hey, we're human, and who hasn't backslid at some point?" said Clara de Soto, one its creators. "But 10 days after we launched, Facebook shut it down. In their defense, it raised a r ed flag for mass deleting." After KillSwitch's founders "leaned in really hard" with Facebook officials, they were granted access again.

Ms. de Soto, a former advertising copywriter, developed the app with Erica Mannherz after friends went through breakups and deactivated their social media accounts to avoid any virtual bumping into the ex. "There are painful shards of a past relationship in your corner of the Internet," she said. "It makes getting over something really challenging." Out of sight, out of mind seemed like a better idea. The app is free, and a percentage of the proceeds from ads goes to the American Heart Association of New York, "so broken hearts can help broken hearts," Ms. de Soto said.

Once the break up is official, why not sell the detritus of the relationship, or profit from someone else's misery? Sites such as Out of Your Life and Exboyfriend Jewelry (now owned by Breakupgoods) are the digital equivalent of smudging with sage to clear a home of evil spirits, like the character in "Sex and the City" who auctioned off the past gifts from the man who left her. (Is it a coincidence that the character's name, Blair Elkin, is an anagram of Ellen Barkin, the actress who put more than 100 baubles accumulated during her marriage to Ronald O. Perelman on the block at Christie's and netted more than $20 million?)

Mere mortals may purge anything from a bedroom set to a bird feeder — or even a pet bird. The more unusual items on Never Liked It Anyway have included a hairnet and a bottle of ketchup. One may think those things could be thrown in the trash. "It's a cathartic experience, a cleansing ritual," said the site's creator, Bella Acton. "We get all our sellers to tell why they're selling, and there's a 'bounce back' space to tell what they'll do with the money. Yes, that happened and we're sorry, but what are we going to do to get you back to fabulous?"

Buyers on these sites seem unconcerned with inheriting the sellers' bad juju. "You're getting a bargain," Ms. Acton said, "and if you can have a Louis Vuitton bag for $500, you'll deal with the negative energy." Most participants are women, but it's been useful for some unfortunate men, as Ms. Acton explained: "He proposed, she said no, and he's left with the ring."

Some of the new breakup industry is clearly intended as entertainment. After downloading the 99-cent app Breakup Text, you choose the bow-tie icon for a "serious" relationship or the flip-flops for "casual," and decide whether you want to say "I lost interest," "I found someone else" or "I was eaten by a bear." Then you are provided with a passionate and hilarious diatribe, your own personal Louis C. K.

"It was a total joke," said Jake Levine, a co-creator, whose day job is at the digital art platform Electric Objects. "It was meant to play into the fears of the older generation about what's happening with relationships the se days. People who would really break up this way are jerks. Maybe relationships are less serious for millennials, but I tend to think new technology changes human beings more slowly than we imagine."

Mackenzie Keast, one of the Canadian brothers (a real estate developer and a civil engineer) who created the Breakup Shop, said: "We see it as a tongue-in-cheek entity. We're very professional, but there's a little humor involved in paying someone else to do a breakup. Attitudes are changing. It doesn't have to be this lonely, miserable, emotional experience. It can be a means to moving on to the next potential partner."

Kanye Myers, a 27-year-old from Toronto who works in digital media, ordered a text message from the Breakup Shop to stop dating a wo man he had met through Tinder. "Things got a little too clingy," he said. "It started in the digital sphere, and it made sense to end it there, like a digital exorcist; in the old days, they would have come in with crosses. I totally get why it would be popular with millennials. We were raised online. It only makes sense that we would download the messy part of our lives, too."

While Mr. Myers conceded that his mother might disapprove, and that he might be in trouble should he ever cross paths with the woman who received his breakup text, he was unapologetic.

"I guess everyone has justification for what they do," he said. "I know that I'm a good person, but this relationship was way too short-term for me to invest in a large-scale breakup. I jus t wanted to go on with my life that morning.

"Maybe if it was more serious, I might spring for the phone call."

Friday, December 25, 2015

The 12 Most Discussed Viral Fashion Videos of 2015

No big surprise here, this year's round-up of influential fashion videos included only the highest tier of models, musicians, and GIRLS. Taylor Swift, Beyoncé, Lena Dunham, and what feels like our generation's entire roster of supermodels, each imparted a fair amount of high-fashion inspiration (and #squadenvy for that matter) to keep us entertained. Keep scrolling to view all the footage and shop our favorite styles.

The Year in Style 2015: Garth Risk Hallberg, the Literary Wunderkind of 2015

Photo Garth Risk Hallberg, author of "City on Fire." Credit Alex Welsh for The New York Times

Few authors, not even Joan Didion, have emerged on the literary scene as dramatically as did Garth Risk Hallberg in 2015.

In October, the author, a writing professor at Sarah Lawrence College, delivered a 900-plus-page book, "City on Fire," that had already generated a headline-making advance of $2 million, and predictions (yes, again) that someone had been able to produce the Great American Novel.

Weeks before the publication date, Mr. Hallberg, who recently turned 37, was profiled in New York Magazine, Interview, The Guardian and Vogue (where he posed moodily in an Ami Alexandre Mattiussi coat and a Comme des Garçons bl azer and was called the author of "the most anticipated novel of the year"). Film and television rights were snapped up by Scott Rudin.

And then the book came out.

Many of the reviews were respectful, even strongly positive, calling the book "a singular achievement" (Entertainment Weekly) and "an uncommon pleasure" (USA Today). In The New York Times, Michiko Kakutani wrote that "City on Fire" was "a novel of head-snapping ambition and heart-stopping power — a novel that attests to its young author's boundless and unflagging talents."

But others were mixed or even dismissive, with many in the literary community emailing each other (with perhaps a little too much glee) a link to Christian Lorentzen's harsh review on the New York Magazine site.

"'City on Fire' is overstuffed with characters, and the lines of action uniting them fray to the point of breaking," Mr. Lorentzen wrote, adding that the readers would certainly pause at some point in the narrative to ask themselves several questions: "Why is the novel set in 1977? What do the tribulations of the hypercapitalist Hamilton-Sweeneys have to do with punk music? And why on earth is the novel so long?"

Sales have been disappointing, with Nielsen BookScan estimating that "City on Fire" has sold slightly in excess of 30,000 copies in hardcover since publication. (Knopf, the publisher, says that total sales, including e-books, have been around 80,000.) Not bad numbers, to be sure, but as The Wall Street Journal reported in November, based on its calculations, the novel "would need to sell about 75,000 hardcovers, 75,000 paperbacks and 150,000 e-books to break even."

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Knopf, the book's publisher, professes to be unconcerned that "City on Fire" hasn't turned out to be the blockbuster it paid $2 million for, with an executive there telling The Journal, "This is a book we expect people will be reading in 20 years."

Correction: December 24, 2015

An earlier version of this article referred incompletely to the sales of "City on Fire" in 2015. In mid-December, Nielsen BookScan estimated that the novel had sold roughly 30,000 copies in hardcover. The book's publisher, Knopf, says that total sales, including e-books, have been around 80,000.

Thursday, December 24, 2015

Every Single Post-Christmas Sale Worth Knowing About

Christmas is almost here, guys. No doubt you're already preparing for the onslaught of gift cards, checks, and cash that are about to come your way. But have you decided how you're going to spend it? Well, if you ask us, hitting up the web's best post-Christmas sales is the way to go. From Urban Outfitters to Reformation, we rounded up the best discounts for your shopping pleasure.

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Social Q’s: Leave Your Holiday Heartbreak at Home

Photo Credit Christoph Niemann

I am 23. This month, my boyfriend of one year broke up with me. I was totally surprised, and am still devastated by it and in love with him. I have asked a few times about getting back together, but he is not interested. So I am trying to move on, which isn't easy. It's even harder when we both turn up at the same holiday parties. I'm scared (but also sort of hoping) that we will be at the same New Year's Eve party. But I don't want to stay home alone. Help!

Nina, Brooklyn

Welcome to the Heartbreak Hotel, Nina. It is my sad duty to report that most of us have checked in for a spell (or three), often feeling mowed down by a fleet of midsize trucks. But in time, those trucks will feel more like flammable hoverboards, and eventually, like tiny children stepping on your toes. It gets better. And exploring this bummer with friends or a therapist will give you more emotional depth and make you smarter about the next guy. (And there will be a next guy — really.)

Short-term helpful hints: Up-tempo breakup music, turned up loud, can be wildly cathartic. Sing your heart out! I flash back to Macy Gray, who ruled my stereo when my ticker was last crushed: "I try to say goodbye, and I choke. I try to walk away, and I stumble." Also great: Cake's angry cover of "I Will Survive." (We all do.) Avoid ballads (a.k.a. Adele) for now. And take plenty of brisk walks and treadmill jogs to the aforementioned soundtrack.

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Good for you that you didn't bail on your holiday parties. Keep going. Give your ex a smile and a nod when you see him, but avoid deeper engagement. Better to keep your game face on. (See also: "Tracks of My Tears.") And if you have a chance to do new things with new people, jump on it. Last thought: drink lightly. Booze may seem cheery-making, but at heart, it's a big old depressant. Good luck! We're rooting for you.

To Surname, With Love

My husband and I have been married for a year. I chose to keep my last name, which my husband supports. Still, we get mail and lots of holiday cards addressed to: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith — Smith, of course, being his name. This makes me feel left out. Is it worth tackling this with family and fri ends?

K.M., New York

Absolutely! You've "only just begun," as Karen Carpenter sang in that velvety voice of hers. Nip this in the bud. And how better to get what we want than by saying what we want? Try not to get too hung up on people's assumption that you took your husband's name. It is a little weird, nowadays, but there was a long tradition of it being automatic, and many women still take their husbands' surnames.

Send postcards to those in error (or mention it the next time you write): "Thanks for the 70-pound fruitcake. We wanted to let you know, for future correspondence, that John and I kept our own surname s. Please update your address book." How else will family and friends (and your bank) know your preference?

New Year's Eve Folly

A close friend invited us to her home for New Year's Eve. It's a tiny gathering: just my wife and me, her and her young daughter — and movies, Champagne and Uber. Another close friend of mine, who has only a business relationship with the hostess, asked me if she could come, too. I asked, and the hostess said, "No, it would change the dynamic." (I agree.) But the hostess also asked me not to spoil her business relationship with my friend. What should I do?

Anonymous

Avoid becoming the messenger. (They don't always get shot, but. …) Tell your pal: "I've thought it over, and I don't feel comfortable asking Susan. It's not my party." All true, even if it omits part of the dance you've already done with your hostess.

It is almost always a bad idea to ask for invitations. But sometimes we panic about being left out and misstep. So, be kind, but don't create headaches for yourself or your hosts by stepping into the middle of guest lists that aren't yours.

Gifts That Stand Out

We received an increasing number of holiday gifts this year with notes that said, "Would you mind wrapping this?" We do mind. So we put the cardboard boxes under the tree, unwrapped. Should we continue doing this or send an announcement that our wrapping service is no longer available?

Deborah, Chapel Hill, N.C.

If I hadn't received this question from four other readers, I wouldn't have believed it. Who does this? Even online companies offer gift wrapping for a small fee. Don't waste another minute thinking about it. I have — and got nowhere. Place the gifts in their plain cardboard boxes under your tree, consider slapping festive bows on top and thank the folks who gave them to you. It's a weird request , but accidentally green — and definitely rhetorical. And on balance, the thoughtfulness of the gift outweighs its bare-boned packaging.

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Stylish Movies to Watch When You're Bored at Home

Home for the holidays? Instead of lounging around feeling cooped up, take advantage of your downtime and get a little cinematic outfit inspiration. We've rounded up some of our favorite sartorially inclined movies—think high-class characters dressed to kill. Even better, you can invite your fam to join. In order to make it through our filter, these films not only had to offer some killer eye candy, but also had to be worth watching. Style, after all, is about how everything comes together!

Scroll down to see the 10 films you'll love for their style, and shop some cozy outfits you'll be able to get comfy in yourself!

Unbuttoned: Pre-Christmas, All You Need to Know About Pre-Fall

In most of the world it may be pre-Christmas, but in the fashion world, which pays attention to no calendar but its own, it's … pre-fall!

Which actually, as Maria Cornejo of Zero Maria Cornejo said as she went through her collection of signature pieces (jumpsuits, kimono coats, asymmetric dresses) in prints culled from sky and street, is a synonym for "high summer."

At least in the Northern Hemisphere, and at least in theory. Though given how this winter is going, high summer could be more like a slush-summer come May, which is when these clothes start rolling into stores.

In the Southern Hemisphere, May is something else entirely, which may be why Michael Kors simply refers to the whole shebang with the highly neutral, and cultur ally au courant, "trans-season."

Got that? Probably not, which is fine, because it's even more complicated: The pre-fall presentations continue in January, with most European labels making a trek to New York at the beginning of the month, just before the men's fall shows begin.

Before you throw up your hands in frustration, however, know that there are really only five things you need to understand about pre-fall in order to appear informed and seasonally fluent over your eggnog and stuffed endive, and which you can then cut and keep, post-cleanse, for later — when you can finally buy the stuff.

Designers find this confusing, too

There appears to be a consensus around pre-fall's sister season, pre-spring, a.k.a. "cruise," a.k.a. "resort," and the financial need to go big on its promotion (these are the clothes that land before the holidays and, hence, can provide a big uptick in sales), which is why Chanel has already announced it is taking its cruise collection to Cuba, and Louis Vuitton is going to Rio. Because pre-fall sneaks in when everyone is otherwise occupied with year-end, however, designers are divided on how much outside attention it merits.

Coach, for example, decided to embrace the season, with the designer Stuart Vevers presenting his collection of "new basics" — shearling biker jackets and peacoats, prairie print shrunken chiffon tea dresses and intarsia character sw eaters — for the first time, while at Bottega Veneta, Tomas Maier unveiled men's wear (faded jewel-toned "suits" of malleable leather jackets and matching washed silk trousers) alongside women's wear.

And Stella McCartney, who is known for holding a pre-collection party complete with models, games and entertainment in lieu of a standard presentation, announced that she was taking her event on the road, and swapping New York for Los Angeles in January.

Proenza Schouler followed Céline in declaring that while it would show the collection to both the news media and retailers, no one was allowed to discuss or photograph the clothes until they went into stores. (We would tell you what they looked like, but then they would have to kill us.) Marc Jacobs opted not to present to anyone except retailers.

But there is one thing everyone agrees on …

This newish season is the source of all that "buy now, wear now" you keep hearing about.

Fashion's latest mantra, "buy now, wear now" — which can be effectively translated as, "Hello, retailers! Nobody wants to buy a coat in June that they can't use until November, or bikinis in December before they go skiing" — is the single driving force behind what you see in pre-fall.

Photo Pre-fall collections by, from left, Ralph Lauren, Diane von Furstenberg and Michael Kors.

"My customers simply will not accept wool," Ms. Cornejo said, even though nominally wool is a fall fabric. The whole point of the pre-collections is to give consumers a reason to go back into stores, after they have exhausted the main season's offerings, and fill in their wardrobes with whatever is relevant at the moment and thus needs to be purchased. People are now conditioned to want, as Mr. Kors says, their fix of "new stuff." So that means …

It's all about layering.

Because really, who knows what the weather will bring? If one look characterizes 2016's pre-fall season so far, it is the slip d ress under shearling, or atop ribbed knits. See, for example, Victoria Beckham's mustard and grape cocktail negligees trimmed in Battenburg lace, worn with nubby coats; or Michael Kors's transparent Perspex miniskirt dotted with giant crystals and worn with a gray cashmere turtleneck sweater, as modeled by Zendaya on the red carpet at the "Star Wars" premiere mere days after it was shown.

Or, for that matter, Calvin Klein and MaxMara's cropped and bandeau tops with slouchy trouser suits and fishnet T-shirts atop pleated lamé skirts. Or Narciso Rodriguez's one-shoulder tuxedo tops and tunics with asymmetric trains that can be worn under jackets or over trousers, but also look elegant just as they are. Within this overarching trend, however, there are a few other, smaller trends. Like …

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Graphic prints

Not just any old prints: top-to-bottom graphic numbers, as seen at Diane von Furstenberg, where everything was scarf-print-inspired in '70s shades; Bottega Veneta, where day dresses came in geometrics and evening halter gowns in giant intarsia stripes; and Altuzarra, where polka dots played over matching trousers and tops.

At Oscar de la Renta, Peter Copping mixed overblown tweed tops with rectangle-splattered sleeveless blouses, and even Ralph Lauren combined an Art Deco-style geometric in both new trousers — wraparounds that create a skirtlike line — and a matching shirt and even cardigan.

"I wasn't sure about the print," Mr. Lauren said. "I didn't want it. And then we tried it." Think of it as the new suit, which is one kind of quasi-innovation. As was …

Athevening

It was only a matter of time after athleisure took the runways by storm. "I see how mothers dress when they are picking their children up from school," Carolina Herrera said. "And they all look like they are going to work out. So I asked, and they said, no, they just want to be comfortable all the time."

Then she thought: Why should they have to stop at black-ti e events? No reason, according to Mrs. Herrera, who created formal sweatshirts in emerald neoprene, trimmed in lace and paired with fluted floor-length evening skirts.

Burberry went for cashmere sweatshirts, while Ralph Lauren offered up a dusty-rose suede tracksuit worn with a diamond-sprinkled chiffon tank top (warning: do not wear this to the gym) not to mention a buttery leather puffa jacket, and Tomas Maier opted for jewel-tone duchesse satin baseball jackets and matching A-line skirts. Score.